PSYCHOLOGY of TANGO.
Joy of Dancing.
By Elena.
Published in the Dance Notes,
La Vida Tango, 2006
Joy of Dancing.
By Elena.
Published in the Dance Notes,
La Vida Tango, 2006
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In the 19 century Tango was born in the slums and brothels. It was born as a result of lonely immigrants; men
were trying to find some comfort in the company of a woman. It was a way of escaping the loneliness. It was
an illusion of love for a moment. It was a way of walk with a woman and music. At the beginning, from
immigrant’s hearts, some deep nostalgic melancholy came to tango music. There were some songs with
very melodramatic words. It could be about a lover who has left some unhappy situations, or life without
meaning or joy. Some lonely people and some dysfunctional couples still come to dance tango in their own time
to get some illusion of love, in order to feel at least for a moment something special and exiting that they don't
have in their real lives. This is another side of Tango that keeps some people at Milonga. It is an old story of
those who tried to buy any kind of illusions. Tango was a way of being drunk or drugged by its mysterious
charm, and in a way to forget for a moment the reality. It is sad, hidden truth about what people share, and
have in common when they dance it. Also, people were fighting with each other because of it. It still stays this
way for some of them.
If a man grew up in a very controlling or manipulative childhood (or still is living with his mother), he acquired
too much feminine energy. His tango is weak. He does not have any energy in the steps. He does not make an
effort to do energetic steps, and he does not know when and how to do that. His authentic initiative was
suppressed in his childhood. Then, the women's independence movement of the 1960's helped to kill that energy
and initiatives of men, as well. This is why a man mostly unconsciously follows a woman's strong personality
in his life and tango. They have fear inside not to be wrong again, not to be scolded. They want to have support
and an approval from their women. They try so hard to be polite, agreeable and please women. However, if they
don't have energy to make that strong tango, it brings them look as a cooked potato on the dance floor.
When a woman has too much male energy, and has too many disappointments and frustrations in her life, she
expresses it through strong dancing. Some women on the dance floor take a man's space and energy, and
paralyze his will to create anything. She takes his desire to create, freedom to dance or improvise.
Nevertheless, she probably does not realize it, and then tries to make up a dance for a man, by at least doing
some adorns.
However, all women still desire and dream to dance with a strong leader, about somebody who would hug them
and strongly take to somewhere to a beautiful happy place. Maybe, at least, in this dance...
In both cases, it is not a good tango. Women and men need to LEARN how to balance their "lack of" or "too
much" male energy. Then their tango will improve. Also, it will help them to live a more harmonious and happy
life. However, it could be a way of a therapy, a better way of thinking. It could be a way of releasing some
negative energy and creating a new fresh stream to live with. Tango movements have special energy in every
one of them. This energy varies from step to step. Such energy depends on the music and on the personality of
the dancer, the designer of that dance.
Dancing tango is fun with not knowing what is next, but creating movement based on the message your partner
sends. Ladies, let men lead you, don't talk to him while learning the dance, don't try to "help" or teach him. Let
them just BE with you there for a moment. You should not assume that you "know," and don't anticipate the
steps. One day you might dance with a very advanced leader, and then you could be very surprised how little
you might know.
Under the general name "Authentic Energy and Connections" we are teaching Tango as a Relationship Therapist.
Some of it this philosophy people would learn at our group lessons, and mostly it will come to you in our private
lessons. The self-healing and fitness benefits of our dance lessons you can clearly recognize when you will put
your conscious into it. Then, you can purposefully and with intent, physically improve your body condition and
your life. If you are curious to read more about our unique discoveries, please read "Tango-Chi"
Allrightsreserved@2006
were trying to find some comfort in the company of a woman. It was a way of escaping the loneliness. It was
an illusion of love for a moment. It was a way of walk with a woman and music. At the beginning, from
immigrant’s hearts, some deep nostalgic melancholy came to tango music. There were some songs with
very melodramatic words. It could be about a lover who has left some unhappy situations, or life without
meaning or joy. Some lonely people and some dysfunctional couples still come to dance tango in their own time
to get some illusion of love, in order to feel at least for a moment something special and exiting that they don't
have in their real lives. This is another side of Tango that keeps some people at Milonga. It is an old story of
those who tried to buy any kind of illusions. Tango was a way of being drunk or drugged by its mysterious
charm, and in a way to forget for a moment the reality. It is sad, hidden truth about what people share, and
have in common when they dance it. Also, people were fighting with each other because of it. It still stays this
way for some of them.
If a man grew up in a very controlling or manipulative childhood (or still is living with his mother), he acquired
too much feminine energy. His tango is weak. He does not have any energy in the steps. He does not make an
effort to do energetic steps, and he does not know when and how to do that. His authentic initiative was
suppressed in his childhood. Then, the women's independence movement of the 1960's helped to kill that energy
and initiatives of men, as well. This is why a man mostly unconsciously follows a woman's strong personality
in his life and tango. They have fear inside not to be wrong again, not to be scolded. They want to have support
and an approval from their women. They try so hard to be polite, agreeable and please women. However, if they
don't have energy to make that strong tango, it brings them look as a cooked potato on the dance floor.
When a woman has too much male energy, and has too many disappointments and frustrations in her life, she
expresses it through strong dancing. Some women on the dance floor take a man's space and energy, and
paralyze his will to create anything. She takes his desire to create, freedom to dance or improvise.
Nevertheless, she probably does not realize it, and then tries to make up a dance for a man, by at least doing
some adorns.
However, all women still desire and dream to dance with a strong leader, about somebody who would hug them
and strongly take to somewhere to a beautiful happy place. Maybe, at least, in this dance...
In both cases, it is not a good tango. Women and men need to LEARN how to balance their "lack of" or "too
much" male energy. Then their tango will improve. Also, it will help them to live a more harmonious and happy
life. However, it could be a way of a therapy, a better way of thinking. It could be a way of releasing some
negative energy and creating a new fresh stream to live with. Tango movements have special energy in every
one of them. This energy varies from step to step. Such energy depends on the music and on the personality of
the dancer, the designer of that dance.
Dancing tango is fun with not knowing what is next, but creating movement based on the message your partner
sends. Ladies, let men lead you, don't talk to him while learning the dance, don't try to "help" or teach him. Let
them just BE with you there for a moment. You should not assume that you "know," and don't anticipate the
steps. One day you might dance with a very advanced leader, and then you could be very surprised how little
you might know.
Under the general name "Authentic Energy and Connections" we are teaching Tango as a Relationship Therapist.
Some of it this philosophy people would learn at our group lessons, and mostly it will come to you in our private
lessons. The self-healing and fitness benefits of our dance lessons you can clearly recognize when you will put
your conscious into it. Then, you can purposefully and with intent, physically improve your body condition and
your life. If you are curious to read more about our unique discoveries, please read "Tango-Chi"
Allrightsreserved@2006
Tango brings people together, but it could separate them.
It has some mystery and magic in it.
Every night women and men are gathering at Milongas to talk, to meet
someone, to smile and maybe feel happier. Their eyes are sad or shine,
their hearts are hurt or inspired, and their minds need some challenge or
relaxation.
They all come with the different purposes and reasons.
Most of them keep dancing because on the dance floor they can release
their tension and anxiety, enjoy the music, meet some challenge or create a
new dance.
For some it is an exercise which keeps them fit. Also, they can forget
every day problems and just relax by dancing.
Others come with the hope to escape the loneliness, and to feel somebody
next to their heart, somebody who makes them feel good, at least for a
moment.
A few found in Tango community their friends and only family.
It has some mystery and magic in it.
Every night women and men are gathering at Milongas to talk, to meet
someone, to smile and maybe feel happier. Their eyes are sad or shine,
their hearts are hurt or inspired, and their minds need some challenge or
relaxation.
They all come with the different purposes and reasons.
Most of them keep dancing because on the dance floor they can release
their tension and anxiety, enjoy the music, meet some challenge or create a
new dance.
For some it is an exercise which keeps them fit. Also, they can forget
every day problems and just relax by dancing.
Others come with the hope to escape the loneliness, and to feel somebody
next to their heart, somebody who makes them feel good, at least for a
moment.
A few found in Tango community their friends and only family.
Victor & Elena
MC - Ilmar Waldner (behind)
Rio Rico, Bonsall-03
MC - Ilmar Waldner (behind)
Rio Rico, Bonsall-03
Many people love Tango because they can grow in it. Tango has many attractive parts (creativity, beautiful steps,
music, and exercise of the mind), which hook people for life. When some got taste of Tango, they unlikely
would ever stop dancing it.
music, and exercise of the mind), which hook people for life. When some got taste of Tango, they unlikely
would ever stop dancing it.
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With this in mind, we could better understand what else is there, in the tango embrace, what kind of psychology
was running tango into the life.
was running tango into the life.
